Communication graduate balances full-time job, school as a single mother

Soleil and her daughter Selena

Soleil Wallen-Balmir said she pushed through hardships to set a good example for her daughter Selena. Photo by 3MVisuals LLC


Editor’s note: This is part of a series of profiles for fall 2018 commencement. Read about more graduates

Soleil Wallen-Balmir, a first-generation American, was excited when she found out she had been accepted to Arizona State University.

Then, about a month before she was set to move from her hometown in Michigan, she learned she was pregnant. She made the move anyway.

“I knew I had to get my degree,” she said. “I wasn’t going to be a single mom and not be a good example for my daughter and not try to pursue what I wanted to pursue if I wasn’t pregnant. I wanted to keep going. I didn’t know it would be so hard but I’m glad I never gave up.”

Wallen-Balmir says her experience at the university was great but admits it was a hard, long journey. She was a single mother raising her daughter, Selena, while working to balance a full-time course load and a full-time job.

Her journey is one that includes pivotal points of support from individuals in the Sun Devil community. Like the moment in her first year on campus when she realized she needed financial support. An employee at the university’s financial aid office helped connect Wallen-Balmir with additional grants and scholarships.

“It was a very emotional time for me,” she said. “If it wasn’t for her, I probably wouldn’t be where I am today.”

In preparation for graduation from the Hugh Downs School of Communication this December, Wallen-Balmir had graduation photos taken and included Selena, now 3 years old, in the photoshoot.

“We did this together. I have had to take proctored exams with her crying. I’ve had to do homework and have her fall asleep in my lap. We’ve fallen asleep with a textbook open next to our faces. A lot of people won’t understand that but it’s a journey we did together,” she said.

“She changed my life for the better. I’m not saying I’m doing all of this for her but she’s a big reason I have not given up. … If I’m having a bad day at work or I’m stressing out about school, looking at her makes everything better.”

Wallen-Balmir wants people facing hard times to keep pushing toward their dreams and always remember to not give up.

“Four years ago, I was literally almost homeless, living off bread crumbs and noodles, pregnant and scared. Everyone has a different situation. Some people don’t have support from their parents. Some people, even if they have the support from their parents, their parents can’t afford things. But there are resources out there. There is a way to achieve your dreams. I just can’t stress it enough: Don’t give up.”

Wallen-Balmir answered questions about her experience at ASU and shared what’s next in her journey.

Question: What was your “aha” moment, when you realized you wanted to study the field you majored in?

Answer: I was a math major — I’ve always been good at math — and as the years went on, I took more math classes but I was really just taking them to take them and I wasn't enjoying them. I did some research to see what I could do with communication and there are so many careers you can go into with a communication degree. I sat down with my academic advisor and she helped me get on the path to a communication degree. Also, a lot of the communication classes are offered online. I thought that was perfect for me since I’m a single mom and work full time, so it was very convenient. I enjoy these classes; All the things I learn in my communication classes I actually apply to my work so it makes my living and work experience better. I’ve been working, learning and applying at the same time.

Q: What’s something you learned while at ASU — in the classroom or otherwise — that surprised you or changed your perspective?

A: A lot of people’s perception of college, in general, is that you pay for the classes, you do it and that’s it — you don’t really have a relationship with your teachers because classes are so big. But the professors in communication show that they care. My instructor now, Ashley Wheeler, is awesome; she’s amazing. She actually let me take my daughter to class one time because I couldn’t find a babysitter. That means the world to me because a lot of professors may be like, "You just have to take the absence and catch up later." I had expressed how important it was not to miss class and she said "I know things happen, go ahead and bring her." It was a really good moment for me to see that she cared about my education and made arrangements for me to be able to come to class. The thing I learned was that professors don’t just come to college to get a check. They actually care about you succeeding in life and that motivates me not to give up.

Q: Which professor taught you the most important lesson while at ASU?

A: Professor Lank, in my UNI 220 academic refresher class. She didn’t look at us like we were flunking out of college or just not caring about our grades. She took the time to learn what was going on in our personal situations, why we thought we got to the point to where we had to take an academic refresher class. It wasn’t necessarily just one specific thing she taught, she just taught me that people go through things. Things happen and that doesn’t mean you’re not a good person or that you’re not doing all you can do to succeed. She gave me — and I’m pretty sure the rest of the class — the motivation to go back uphill.

Q: What’s the best piece of advice you’d give to those still in school?

A: Take some time for yourself. Definitely still study throughout the week but take time for yourself on the weekends. If you don’t, you won't be able to focus on your studies.

Q: If someone gave you $40 million to solve one problem on our planet, what would you tackle?

A: Given that I am interested in law, I would invest in representation for those who can’t represent themselves. There are so many people in this world being convicted of crimes they didn’t commit. I would start funding and helping provide good representation.

Q: What organizations were you involved in?

A: The Black Undergraduate Law Society has given me so many connections. That organization is great. I was able to attend the Arizona State Bar, I was able to meet Professor Myles Link… They give you so many resources for your career and academic life.

Q: What are your plans after graduation?

A: I am 100 percent taking a year off. I have dedicated the last four years and some to school. My daughter has grown so much and I missed the little things. I want to sit back and breathe and be able to be at home with her — go to work, come home, eat some pizza, watch a movie — just relax. During the year, I am going to study for my LSAT because I want to get the best score possible. So, I’ll be taking the next year off of school, but I guess not taking the year off of studying. It’s what I have to do to get where I want to go.

Soleil and her daughter Selena walk on Palm Walk

Soleil Wallen-Balmir and her daughter, Selena. Photo by 3MVisuals LLC

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